Every saturday is a challenging day for me. Bcoz time is very tight and i always gotta rush. For example today... my helper is not around, and mum got to go hospital visit my grandma. Me alone handling the children as zhenyu is working today as well.
The problem is i got to rush Princeton boy for his phonics class at 10.45... luckily my mum is willing to help me with Paris. I drove them over, send tian up for his lesson, park the car and took over xin. Mum left after that. I brought my girl around and waiting for tian to off school. Then brought the two of them for mac breakfast:) Eat until halfway, my inlaws joined in. They had prepared fish porridge for their baobei.My inlaws praised me, wow, u can take care of both on your own? I smiled and said yah as long the brother don't go hay wired:p My mil immediately said, of course must be able to take care your own (even without maid or your mum), don't be like other people cannot make it still wanna so many children! I was like, wah..... who is she referring leh. (but i didn't ask)
We strolled back to my inlaws place after breakfast, and tian had a 15mins playtime at the school playground. My mil seems to favour tian more and my fil seems to dote xin more, haha!! We went back shortly..... the lil Ps had quality fun playtime with their grandparents! But soon, its their milk/nap time, and its another level for me to handle two at the same time. Mil went to do her housework, and fil read his newspaper.
Hubby came over at last near to 4pm! He was very hungry, so we had an early dinner while the children were still having their nap. They slept around for 1.5hours, and were energetic to play again! Hubby was tired of course but still cherish his timeout with them.
People might think, husband working, come home should rest. Sorry, what makes you think that stay at home mother is not as tiring as working husband?? Let alone i'm not 100% sahm, i have got alot of school assignment waiting for me to complete in 3weeks time!
Don't be mistaken, definitely not zhenyu who have this type of selfish thoughts. He understands that no one has the right to compare whoever duties are more stress or are tougher. There was once, a person who pinpoint that his/her work is more stressful than mine, and that i can never behold what he/she is doing. If he thought that this particular job is stress, i confirm cannot take it. I actually kept quiet, i did not became defensive or starts an argument. Bcoz i was utterly disappointed at that time of point.
Let me asked you, 你做过我这份工吗? 你有尝试过做工回家还要照顾孩子吗? When i say take care means whole night. Although i have maid and mum at home, but I'm proud to say i took care of them at night even though i was working last night)Unless I'm sick, then maid will take over. So u never been in my shoes, please don't comment. Even though u can be a Minister or President, what makes you think that my threshold of stress cannot be on par as yours???
Anyway, its over... i can forgive, but sometimes its not possible to forget. My mum wasn't happy about maid going back thingy. But to me, my point still stands... haiz... so 自己辛苦一点，as i never believe in relying on parents or inlaws for taking of the children. Yes i can say that because i am not working now. But my line is parents/inlaws only helps to 看头看尾。Never expect them to be your maid or your nanny. If i cannot afford a maid, then too bad, i will have to take care myself. If i think its very difficult or tiring, cannot take care by myself, then don't bothered to go for so many children. Why will i have so many thoughts? My mil shared many of her views with me today, which i agreed... (shall not go into much details)
I was once a working mother, and now a sahm. So, therefore i could understand both situations. 我可以很大声的说: 全职在家里照顾家庭不显得比做工妈妈来的容易。Once again, i emphasized, everybody got their own stressful part. Doesn't mean i everyday happy go lucky means my duties are easy. It don't mean that i cannot take pain and give up easily. I may be idealistic, i may see things and people very positively. Because i believed that positive thinking attract positive ions. Ok, time to join Princeton boy in bed. Hope they can have good night sleep, hee... the dad is very tired.
