Zhenyu had an event at Sentosa with his colleagues today. Therefore, i brought the kiddos over my inlaws place for dinner. Princeton told me he wanted to show yeye and nainai his puzzles, i agreed to his request. (usually i do not like him to bring any forms of toys over, vice versa.)
The lil Ps do not get to see my inlaws everyday, even though they would always peep at Princeton (The childcare centre opposite their block). I believed this is why my inlaws treasure every moment with them whenever we go over for dinner. They get to feed their precious, as well as to carry and to play with them. My inlaws were especially happy today, when they saw the puzzles Tian was able to complete. My pil were very impressed, and kept praising the boy. And thereafter my mil praised me:) I was delighted too of course. Thinking tat this is not the toughest puzzles Princeton boy could accomplished. There are tougher ones at home. heehee...However, one cannot be conceited or boastful about it. I do like to give my boy the recognition he deserved, but do not wish to show off about it. Let alone doing comparison with his peers. He is weak in his language and pronunciation, as well as he needs improvement in his motor skills. I do not put him down, but instead i encouraged him to speak with confident. It's OK if our children is abit slow. But if we keep thinking and hoping that they will be as clever as other children, then it will only make ourselves ugly, and the children feeling low esteem and stressful.
That's why i never regret the decision to quit when i was expecting Paris last year. I get to be the first one to see my kiddo's milestone, and of course, i get to decide for my children. Many caregiver likes to help parents to make decision. Which i felt is quite pathetic. Sorry to say that, because if we as a parent cannot decide for our children, then who else can?? Name for example, many got to listen to the oldies ( for respect or for religion purpose), whichever. Food another example, must let them decide what food to cook for the children. Places! Also must follow what the old folks say, and must obey the timing to come back some more.
OK, true enough, we should seek advise from our parents, as a respect or to please them. Nevertheless, they had more experience than us, and its always good to seek a second opinion. But we as a parent, should take our own stand. Some things we ought to firm and we are always the final call. NOT a third person. Nobody has the right to tell me what time i should bring my kids back home, for god's sake please. We are adults, and we definitely know what is best for the children.
My mil brew some soup for Princeton boy today. He simply loves soup. He got his Jelly (birdnest) for desserts too. I had my share too, thanks mother:) I'm lucky that my inlaws don't interfere in our matters alot. I meant, they are very independent and open minded. I cannot imagine if someone would to tell me, what clothes must i wear for my children. I think i will go bonkers. Because since my lil Ps were born, I am the only one who can decide what they should wear. It's seems a trivial matter, but yet, parents got to follow what the oldies say. Sad right?
My concern is very simple. Children belongs to us. We should take ownership.
