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Saturday hubby was on duty, he came home with breakfast for everyone despite not driving the car... Thanks my chubby man:) He went to five different stalls to dabao, and carrying his heavy bag to take bus home. He wanted me to sleep more instead of waking me up to fetch him.
Once he reached home, the LiL Ps flocked over him and hug him tightly. Tian said daddy why you so long then come back? Happy right? Then he added, me and meimei very hungry! heehee.... We had breakfast together and daddy accompanied them till their nap time. Then all of us went for our nap ZZZZZ
Woke up at 5plus and prepared to go over my pil house for dinner. We went on Friday, but fil wanted us to go over again on Sunday because next week he might be on night shift. We had a great evening, Tian&xin had first round of noodles, then second round porridge. Mil love to cook nice food for them and for us. She brewed tonic soup for me again last week. Thanks mother! Tonight my mum will brew black chicken soup. See... how not to lose weight.... haha
Mil bought new Lego's for them again. Tian loves to build ships and aeroplanes and robots. He is very imaginative and enjoyed Lego stuffs. We left at ten pm, by then we got home and bath the children, it's already 11pm. Recently Tian&xin wanted me to read a storybook first before they sleep.
I felt children pick up fast in electronic stuffs like ipad, PSP, iphone etc. But once they are into it, they would have no interest in reading, writing, and those traditional way of studying. Seeing the new era kiddos indulging in games, i felt disheartened. Parents thought it's ok. Until one day when the child is in Primary school, he or she can't even write proper words. Maybe top in gaming... unless you can be like top five gamers then different story.
I planning to buy ipad lookalike! (no money for Apple) But of course i can control my children. Play only when finished their homework. (Don't fret... very simple h/w, tian needs to practise writing two pages and xin to color one picture) Wanted to buy and download some interesting games for them as well as educational stuffs to learn. Main reason is because iphone got radiation whereas I'll be looking at wifi ipad.
Hmm... got to think of a good way to persuade zhenyu to agree....
Carlyn, a young looking mummy of two boys, invited us over for her house warming this afternoon. Her younger son Yongzhi and Princeton are classmates at the Childcare centre. Zhenyu was on duty today hence he missed this gathering. We went straight over after Princeton's phonics lesson, therefore didn't bring Paris along. It was her nap time as well.
Princeton was looking forward for this gathering, and he behaved exceptionally well today. I guessed my last punishment did work.... We reached at one pm and went home at 5pm. The buffet (Jess Catering) was great, nice food in term of quality and quantity. Their house was fully renovated, and i like their concept alot! Princeton commented, mummy this new house looks beautiful.
The kids had fun, and the parents enjoyed our chit chatting session. An great companion as our topics are more or less about children and schooling stuffs. We exchanged pointers about handling children, and share experiences too. All the mummies there are wonder woman, thumbs up!
We left first, as sister came over for dinner just now. Princeton was very tired, but he just couldn't bear to nap. I bathed him and he was refresh again. Read his storybook while waiting for ah yee ah tio and Zachary.
I went marketing this morning, and bought $80 worth of cod fish and threadfin. These should last the LiL Ps for one whole month. Bought pork ribs and chicken too... Thanks mummy for tonight's dinner:)
The most important KPI i had, is to see Tian&xin to have three good meals daily. The happiest thing is to see that they eat healthily and i'll be more than happy.
We had a fun evening with this active Zachary. He is walking 2,3 steps now! His legs are strong, and obviously he had been eating good food, hahaha.... 3meals of porridge per day, with fruits and cereals, plus bread and biscuits. Good life my little Kejie!!
Children after 6months old should be having solid food as their main meals, because formula milk only is not enough for them. Grow well my LiL darlings!!
Much of the time this occurs unconsciously. Parents, in their own behavior - the amount of time spend with each kid, the body contact with them and body language - convey a lot that kids see and feel even though they do not express/say it out. Other times, it can be more obvious, when one seems to be more intelligent/better looking than the other.
In fact, It is honorable for parents to acknowledge that they have bias, and this is not something to be ashamed of. Reflecting upon personal bias can mean admitting or acknowledging shortcomings - and admitting that you need help to address those issues. Is this a difficult thing to get parents to do? Most of the times, parents got into self deception and shut themselves off from other's comments and advice...
Things became worse when both parents showed favouritism towards the same kid, and there is no one to remind us. How do we expect siblings to be close when they don't even live under the same roof? How do we expect siblings to love each other when parents are not showing a good example. To say we love our children is easy, so let's ask ourselves how much quality time we spend on them during the weekends? The best quality time is actually sleeping time, where most parents neglected this.
The consequences are serious when time goes by. We might not feel the impact now, but i guarantee, you will regret when you see your child being despised and look down on by the other/the rest. Pardon me for being blunt, but to all parents: If you cannot even handle one child, then don't go for a second one. If you think 2 children is a big burden, then just stick with two. These are our children, so take ownership. Leaving all day at grandparent's house is just going to show how irresponsible we are. It is fine to leave there during daytime, because we need to work. But during weekend, we should fully take over and handle them.
We must bear in mind. If you are biased and show favouritism/unfairness, GOD will just take away everything from you. Yes, everything.
Last week, Princeton boy has been asking how to write his chinese name. I decided to teach him yesterday as he had mastered his basic strokes quite well. Surprising, this boy could do it smoothly in his first attempt! Though it doesn't look that nice, but the strokes are right and i gave him a big clap for it, good try my boy!
He could write his chinese name in Full version now. It is a great achievement because his name had many strokes, definately not easy for a 4years old kid. I spent effort in teaching too, haha. Must claim some credits:p We do not want to compete with others, but to compete with ourselves. I got to know where is his limit, try to stretch abit and of course hold back if he gets too stress. He told me, if i can write my own name, can i play board game with daddy later? I agreed. Children at this age need motivation to get them going... i hope as he grow he doesn't need any reward, and he can do it at his own will.
When i show him a picture, he could make up a story and imagine something out of it. He is doing well in his Electone music lesson, and could play Do Re Mi using the correct fingers. He told me he wanted to play a nice song for me one day. I don't expect alot, as long he got the interest to learn, I'll give him my support.
Paris, my super sticky glue, getting very whiny recently. The Terrible Two years old syndrome can be from mood swing to throwing tantrums to high pitch screaming to crying out of no reason. My solution usually is to IGNORE, or to distract them with other things. Well, we tried explaining but believe me, it's useless. Haha.... I don't spank them at this age.. To be frank, they are not giving us a hard time, instead, they are having a HARD time. So let's be compassionate to go through this difficult period with them.
My helper agreed to extend for another two years. She will be going back in december for three weeks. Hubby would take 2 weeks leave. My mum is going for a holiday that month. Best...... Good luck to me. Haha.
I'm ok to handle the both of them. Usually they behave exceptionally well if they are alone with me. My weapon cane is hanging in the living room. Heehee... Good luck LiL Ps.
Known hubby for 15 years.. Yes when i was 15. He was two years my senior during secondary school days. We got together after my O Level results, and we were in the same polytechnic.
Zhenyu put in alot of effort for my family. He worked part time to earn extra cash so that i don't have to work as a waitress. He spend time taking care of my brother who was diagnosed with brain cancer. He stay overnight at my place and slept on the mattress beside ah boy every alternate days. We played poker cards and monopoly with ah boy everyday... Ah boy likes him alot, and told me never to change boyfriend again. This is one reason why i sticked so long with hubby. During that 3 years, we do not have much happy times dating like other couples do. As my family is going through a tough time, mentally and financially.
He was only a boyfriend that time. But the things he did was more than a bf would have done. Staying overnight at the hospital, at my place, at the funeral. Gave my mum money and help with the housework. After ah boy passed away, my father is next. He did the same thing, and without him, i would have breakdown.
Hubby don't come from a rich family. But at least a clean family background. Everything we have now are from his hard earned money. Our wedding banquet, our first flat, our first car, our honeymoon, his savings all goes to these. He is independent, and he don't rely on his parents at all.
Thanks for being there for me all these years. Though you may be blur, forgetful, lazy, self centered, glutton, chubby, irritating, annoying, etc etc etc, but i accept your good and your bad, because you are my one and only one! Though i may spend less attention in you, because LiL Ps are my priority now:) But rest assured, we have many good years to go when both Tian&xin grown up. We will be like father mother, everyday watch movie, lim kopi, go jalan jalan, go tour, eat good food, get fat and exercise together:)
Life is short, forget about petty stuffs, think positive things, say positve things and do positive things:)
Jimmy is our common friend, i get to know him through Hubby. He attended Princeton's bb shower and his first year old celebration as well. Paris's bb shower, he was overseas, he bought a set of clothes for her i remember.
He went Taiwan last week with his wife Daphnne, to celebrate her birthday. Bought us some gifts too! Thank you so much! I'm very selective about hubby's friends/colleagues. Hmm... sorry because most of them either are smokers or addicted gamblers. A few exceptionally ones, and Jimmy is one of them.
Sat, after Tian's phonics, we meet Jimmy for lunch at Jurong Point. Princeton was so friendly when he was Uncle Jimmy. He likes him alot:) Hope to hear bb news from him soon!
Today we attended my ex Navy colleagues Ah seng first son bb shower. They held it at a beautiful condo at Aspen Heights. Bb Donovan looks so much like mama:) Seng told me his mum helped out during daytime, and they would take care on their own during night time and weekends. Responsible parents:)
I wish Donovan all well for his good health and Happy Parenthood seng&jinny!
Today Paris had her 8th lesson at Zoo Phonics:) Finally, she could really sit still and appreciate the story telling, the art work, and of course the singing session! In the past she dislike story telling. Would get distracted and started to walk around the classroom.
Her lesson falls on every Monday and Thursday. Monday i let maid went in with her, so that next time she would be ok with maid as well. In the past, Princeton too glued to me because i handled things too extreme. Everything also wanted to handle it myself, in the end i suffered. So, Paris i would let go abit, BUT I would always be her FIRST choice.
Both Tian&xin are slow in their speech. But i felt its perfectly fine as long they can follow instruction. They are slow in walking too. But the rest are on track. A child can be slow, but cannot be lazy. My sis always praised Tian is a fast learner, but actually he is not. But he is hardworking. He is an average learner whom show interest in learning. He still lack of self confidence, I'm still trying to encourage him to overcome his fear and hesitation.
Paris new milestone as at 22 months, she could sit still for her storytelling:) She followed instruction (pick up a crayon, and scribble) and she went to the toilet and washes her own hands @ school.
To me, little achievement like these made my day. At least i know she is picking up new things and could understand what we said. Though she can't really speak now. Keep it up my liitle Princess! Mummy so proud of you:)
Tian&xin would look forward to yeye and nainai's house every week. Thank God that both my father&mother in law are in good health:) The LiL Ps are so blessed to have grandparents that pampered them so much. Mother would spend so much effort in preparing delicious dinner for us every week. With yummy brewed soup and of course desserts!
We are one glutton family who loves eating, heehee!! Enjoyed going to Uncle William house, my sis house and my inlaws place, because eating as one big family is so much joyful!! GET FAT TOGETHER :D Mil doesn't like to dine outside, she preferred children to eat homemade food.
In the past, Tian dislike meat. He is very fussy in food... Actually it was my fault, too many restriction:( Ice cream also cannot eat, chocolates also cannot, chicken also cannot, deep fried stuffs also cannot. So in the end what?? Princeton still cough very frequent. Very silly... as long as a decent amount, or just try no harm, is OK.
That's why Paris got to try more types of food. The mistakes i made in Princeton, i would not repeat in Paris. BUT, that doesn't mean i give up in Princeton. Yes, don't repeat the mistakes in the past, but we need to make up for this mistakes. Doesn't mean mistakes made in the past, we just leave it, and start 'new'. Which means, i don't just leave Princeton continue to be a fussy eater, and only put on my focus in Paris!
I should put in double effort in 'amending' the mistakes which i made. I tried to intoduce Tian to delicious meat, and show him pictures of meat. I tried to coax him in eating, and after failing 100x, the 101 time he finally learn how to eat meat.
These are our children, not things like paper, which we wrote it wrongly for the first time, we can throw them away and start afresh on a new piece.
Sometimes, i just felt very disappointed. I can only say, we bear the consequences. Don't make anymore grave mistakes.
It was a lazy morning today... drizzling... We all lazed on the bed till 10am! I got up and remembered my mission for today ~~~ To go for jogging.
Hubby specially bought me Reebok shorts and sports bra. Two weeks ago, he got me a pair of running shoes. Very supportive and determined to make sure i go jogging today. I was all ready and hubby accompanied to the park for morale support. Haha... He then went back to the kids for lunch and playtime with them.
I jogged slowly for ten mins (non stop). After which i jogged and walked... beginning to feel breathless. LOL! I completed two big rounds at the park, which is about 2km. I doubt i can run any further because the sun is getting hotter. Quite satisfied with myself, at least i took the first step!
After i took a bath, i began to feel hungry.... wanted to bring the kids to Fidgets but Tian said he wanted to take a nap first and asked me to go for my lunch with daddy. I was so amazed and very surprised to hear such replies from him! He told me "mummy you go eat your lunch with daddy, me and meimei nap first." I gave him a big kiss and told me we will be back very fast. Me and zhenyu then quickly rushed to Jurong point for my favourite Lailai Noodles, and to Ya Kut for bread and coffee:)
Zhenyu said very nan de both of us could came out for a meal. Felt kind of weird without the lil ps, hahaha.... We went back as soon as we finished eating. When we got home, i saw tian and xin were playing happily in my room. Jumping and laughing away :D
We bought rice for them as tea snacks, and tian ate one whole bowl. Xin's appetite was getting bad recently.... she don't eat as much as she used to be. We had a good bonding time with them and decided not to go out, as mum said she would cook tonight.
I had reading time with tian&xin, and hubby play board games with them. Princeton had reached another milestone, he could read a storybook now:) I had video it down for my own memories. He could read quite a few sentences, and i'm glad he enjoyed reading. He is learning to write in chinese characters now. He kept asking me how to write his chinese name. I told him to master his basic strokes first and i will teach him.
What we reap is what we sow. I put in my utmost effort for the LiL Ps, especially Princeton, i could felt a glow of contentment. But these doesn't always happen... I do encountered obstacles and disappointment too, when he don't behave and refuse to learn. But i never give up. I tried again the next day.
I might not have as much time and commitment for the kids next year. Therefore i hope to build up their foundation and their interest in good things.
I have got two monsters at home who are always scared of 'Monsters". They enjoyed watching show which are mysterious and scary... It's meant for children of course, shows like Journey2,John Carter, Thor, spiderman, Whoa! Their favourites! Using a pillow to cover their eyes, kept saying monster coming... I told them, don't need to be afraid, because you are a monster also.
Always fighting, always snatching toys, always crying for MUMMY. These few days, Paris got irritated very easily, threw tantrums and pick a fight with her brother. Obviously she don't get to win:( Princeton is much bigger and taller than her LOL.
I can't always punish the brother, because most the time Paris started beating his head or snatching his toys. When Princeton retaliate, Paris used her powerful tigeress teeth! Princeton pushed her away then meimei will CRY down the roof.
They not only fight over toys. They fight over me as well.... Fortunately, Princeton is kind of sensible (at times), and he understand Paris is still a 'baby', need more attention and coaxing.
Siblings bound to fight. Conflicts are inevitable. They fight now, and hug each other the next minute. Yes, they can be so loving and i thought they were lovers. HAHA!! Of course when they fight, they look like arch enemies. But at least i know they enjoyed each other companion and most of all, they misses one another when either one is not with him/her.
When they fall sick, they fall sick together:( I gotten used to it, because there is no way i can leave one at the other place, or just bring one out to enjoy. Sick, stay at home together, or go out together.
The amount of time i spent with them is equal... maybe a little bit more for Princeton, because sat i need to bring him for Phonics, and usually Paris is at home on sat morning. Thursday and Friday, i will bring Paris along, becuase the enrichment centre is at shopping malls, cooling and she can go 'shopping'.
I believed, if children live with Fairness, they learn justice.
I felt children pick up fast in electronic stuffs like ipad, PSP, iphone etc. But once they are into it, they would have no interest in reading, writing, and those traditional way of studying. Seeing the new era kiddos indulging in games, i felt disheartened. Parents thought it's ok. Until one day when the child is in Primary school, he or she can't even write proper words. Maybe top in gaming... unless you can be like top five gamers then different story. 
